I'd like to see some kind of service where someone would sign up to be followed around and videotaped, so they could see how others truly react. Or maybe, it could be followed up with a professional psychoanalysis of some kind.
Would psychotherapy would be less necessary of one could just do that?
Yes, sometimes people just need a sympathetic ear and yes, sometimes, a safe, non-judgmental environment is conducive to the healing process. But we don't interact in a room. We move about in the world, jarred and jangled by non-linear occurrences that pressure us into desperate situations.
But how does one establish boundaries? How does one successfully communicate without either being misunderstood, or misunderstanding, unless it takes place in an objective environment?
I've been told I think more like a guy; I'm not a passive listener. When someone tells me their problems, I listen actively and try to come up with a solution. I can't really wrap my head around listening to someone complain endlessly about an issue and not take steps to resolve it. Conversely, unless the issue is circumstantial (see my two last posts), I don't see the point in talking to someone about my problems unless I'm seeking a solution. Even when I've experienced grief, I think this way.
Is the urge to talk out problems ego-driven, a need for attention? Is that why, when someone talks about their problems, the listener's response could most likely be, "you think YOU have it bad? Well, listen to MY problems."
What are our real needs?
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